The Desire for Attention

Vern can’t understand why Bee doesn’t want to have anything to do with him. All he wants is what dogs want, some companionship and attention. But Bee knows better. She has been around the block a couple of times with other male dogs, and knows the attention Vern wants to give, isn’t welcome.

Humans are similar to our canine friends. We also have an inward desire to receive attention from others. Some may need more than others, but everyone’s DNA is set up to only be complete when we are surrounded by a network of friends and family.

The problem comes when we’re only expecting others to give us our daily dose of attention, without reaching out to others.  Many times, we think friends and family should give to us before we reciprocate. When this cycle begins, it usually ends with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.

If we would turn our attention to the approach Jesus took, everyone could have their needs met, and some left overs to pass out. “When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them.  “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am.  Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.  I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.  Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him.  Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them. “(John 13:12-17)

If attention is what you are looking for, then you will find it in the act of serving. Reach out to the friend that may need a kind word or a neighbor that may need help. It will be in the act of service that you discover your own needs will be met.

Vern’s need for attention may not come through his sister dog. That’s okay. He has been learning that his attention can come from all his human friends that enjoy a good Vern petting every once in a while.